How far should a mother go to raise a child and shape her mind?
When the child is a baby, a mother can do things for her, like change her diapers or feed her. The baby grows to be five years old, so a mother may go buy her school supplies for her, but she may ask her if the back pack should be a Dora or a Minnie Mouse one. As the child becomes a teenager, a mother may help her decide what course to take in high school, and ultimately, what university to go to. But when a daughter becomes an adult, how much can her mother still influence her? What if this adult daughter chooses paths the mother disagrees with? How should the mother act? What should a mother do? Support her? Discuss it with her? She should judge her? Reprimand her?
To all mothers out there, and even fathers: children really, really want to do good, and want to please their parents, even to the risk of their happiness. Don’t do that to your children, don’t pressure them with what you want, rather than what they want. Support them and love them, and your children than can have the freedom to be happy. Their life is theirs, not yours, but share in each other lives in a way that happiness can be achieved in both spheres, theirs and yours.
